MARCH 1

MARCH: DREAM BIG

INTRODUCTION

I have long been a believer in dreaming and in having dreams come true. I have had enough of them myself that I can’t deny that it is a reality. Yes, dreams really do come true, but there is much to be said about the why’s and the how’s which is what we will be talking about during the month of March.
When others doubt the importance of dreaming or the impossibility of having dreams come true, all I have to do is to look around and see how many things there are that we use and take for granted every day that are the result of someone’s else’s dream. Doubters don’t make good dreamers, but dreamers make good inventors, creators, builders, accomplishers, winners and believers.

Because I have had so many of my own dreams come true, it is something I definitely do believe in and love to talk about. I have had everything from small, garden-variety dreams to big, impossible dreams come true and so I can say without a doubt that dreams are something I have learned to trust. We know that not all dreams do come true and that’s okay, but enough have actually come true for me that I know it’s worth the time and effort to invest in a dream.

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DARE TO DREAM

“If you can dream it, you can do it.”—Walt Disney

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What a wonderful thing it is that each of us has a God-given right to dream! The will and the desire to dream has been engineered into our genes and into our brain cells. It is part of our identity and what makes us the amazing, awesome and intelligent beings that we are. In fact, I believe that we are meant to dream so that we can be more, have more and do more. Dreaming is what gives us motivation and the inspiration to create a life that is above and beyond what we are now experiencing.  

Something I have learned as I have gone from one dream to another, some of which happened and others which didn’t, is that dreaming adds more joy to life. It is one of the bonuses of believing in something that we can only see with our mind’s eye.  We can either experience the joy that comes from dreaming and take advantage of this great bonus or set it aside and decide it’s not worth the trouble. It’s up to us. Dreaming allows us to see beyond the now to what can be in the future. It opens doors, it creates possibilities and it allows our spirit to soar as we think about, plan for and work towards a goal that starts out only as a simple hope for something better.


A good place to start when you start out with a dream of your own is to listen to others tell their stories about the dreams that they have had come true. People love to share their “dream stories” and relate how they went from an unknown nobody to a well-known somebody just because they had a dream. Listening to what others have to say about the way they made their dreams come true adds courage to your own dreaming and sets you on the path of pursuing something you believe in and want to make happen.

Dreaming allows us to grow and develop our own gifts. When we dream, we can see ourselves becoming more than we are now. It allows us to try new things and do what we once thought we never would or could.

Dreaming could also be defined as an act of faith. A dream starts out as a wish which then becomes a hope, after which it then it becomes a belief in what might happen followed by acting on that belief.  When we have faith in ourselves and in our dreams, anything can and often does happen. We can take courage from others who were also once afraid to dream, but who have overcome their fears and gone on to do great and marvelous things. Dare to dream. It is one of the best ways I know to be happy.

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CHAPTER THREE: DREAM BIG

FEBRUARY 28

LAST WORDS

“Congratulations! You’re not perfect! It’s ridiculous to want to be perfect, anyway. But then everybody’s ridiculous sometimes, except perfect people. You know what perfect is? Perfect is not eating or drinking or talking or moving a muscle or making even the teensiest mistake. Perfect is never doing anything wrong—which means never doing anything at all. Perfect is boring! So you’re not perfect! Wonderful! Have fun! Eat things that give you bad breath! Trip over your own shoelaces! Laugh! Let somebody else laugh at you! Perfect people never do any of those Be they’re really not one-hundred-percent perfect anyway. You should see them when they get the hiccups! Phooey1 Who needs ‘em? You can drink pickle juice and imitate gorillas and do silly dances and wear funny hats and be as imperfect as you please and still be a good person.  Good people are hard to find nowadays. And they’re a lot more fun than perfect people any day of the week.”—Steven Manes, Be A Perfect Person In Just Three Days

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Don’t you love this quote? I know I do. It sums up perfect everything we have been talking about in these last 27 sections of this chapter on letting go of perfection. We have discussed a lot of different ways of overcoming this most difficult problem of perfection. In the end it all boils down to just one thing and that is being kinder and gentler to yourself as you make your way through the minefield of perfectionism and out into the light of being the truly wonderful person you are even with warts, wrinkles, love handles, ingrown toenails, split ends, blackheads and all.  If you’re not happy with who you are, then go ahead and make whatever changes you want as long as you can recognize yourself in the mirror and don’t lose your identity over it. You are who you are and even if you’re not perfect (remember, no one else is, either!) you can still be happily imperfect along with the rest of the us.
Here are some more final words before we move on to the next chapter:

·         Be kind to yourself as you travel the somewhat lonely road of letting go of the need to be perfect.

·         Be patient while you make changes and let go of long-standing beliefs and attitudes that have kept you from being your true self.

·         Know that you are not alone. There are others who experience this same struggle. Find them, share the journey and work together. You can give each other encouragement and support which is much needed.

·         Take small steps as you work towards being less perfect and work on things a little at a time.

·         Choose one thing a day to work on.  If you always have to drive the same route to work and park in the same place because you know you can do it perfectly,  do it differently tomorrow.

·         Wear something backwards or inside out or upside down. Wear your shoes on the wrong feet. Do something the absolute opposite of the way you normally do.

         Let your hair blow in the wind and don't even care if you look like the lady in this picture. She probably doesn't care, either. 




There are some people who are willing to try and others who just give up and call it quits before they even give it a fair chance. Don’t be one of these. You can do it! I know that you can. It’s possible to be perfectly imperfect and it’s also one of the very best things to be. So, just say no to the utterly impossible task of being perfect (and expecting the same of everyone else.)  Save your sanity, your health and your relationships. It’s worth doing and you don’t even have to do it perfectly.

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CHAPTER TWO: JUST SAY NO